How To Spoon Someone Properly.
Spooning is when a couple spoon-feeds each other cream of corn soup until they both climax. Kidding! How gross would that be though? No, spooning is a classic cuddle position where two people lie side-by-side, butt-to-back. The “small spoon” is the person on the inside and the “big spoon” is on the outside, with their chest in full contact to their partner’s back. Spooning is a great way to feel close and connected to your lover (figuratively and literally), but it’s a super tricky way to fall asleep. If you’re Type A and everything irritates you, sleeping with a heavy flesh bag (aka your partner) draped around you like a human seat belt is low-grade torture.
Typically, the person who identifies as the more dominant partner in the relationship is the big spoon and the more submissive person is the little spoon. But it can go either way! Any two people regardless of gender, orientation, or even height can assume either position.
Pros of spooning: human closeness, feeling safety and love, and physical warmth.
Cons of spooning: boner in your back, hair in the mouth, arms falling asleep.
How To:
Spooning is awesome and if you haven’t tried it, get ready for another great excuse to stay in bed all day.
To be spooned, first, you and your lover get into bed, and lie on your sides. Then you scooch back until your butt is nuzzled into their genitals and their chest is pressed into your back. Feel free to buckle in by putting their arm around your waist.
Isn’t that delightful?
Except for the part where they are blowing hot air into your neck, practically roasting you alive. And their arm around your waist is starting to feel like a 50-pound weight. And you’re getting antsy but you don’t want to move. Oh, well! It was nice for a couple minutes.
Variations:
Spooning exists on a spectrum of innocent to sexy. Cuddling up with your bestie on the couch to talk about Pretty Little Liars? Innocent. Cuddling up naked with a dude, his erect penis resting between your thighs? Sexy!
For people who can’t get enough of that sweet spoon life, there is also a way to have sex in this position.
For hetero sex, you lie on your side with your man behind you and slowly back into his penis. It’s a great position for touching because he can use his free hand to massage your clit or play with your nipples.
Spoon sex is also an awesome position for anal penetration for both hetero and homosexual couples. In her book, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, author and sex educator Tristan Taormino, notes, “This position is comfortable, flexible and easily maneuverable, and it gives both partners good control over the angle and depth of penetration; it’s an ideal position for partners of varying heights or sizes.”
However, she also adds that it’s not the best position for super-deep anal penetration, which, if you’re new to butt stuff, could actually be a plus.
